The moment you find yourself questioning your relationship: asking yourself if you were meant to be, if you made the right choice, or if it’s going to work out, you know that your relationship is in hot water.
One thing you’ll definitely ask yourself though, is ‘What went wrong?‘
Did you not follow certain rules and meet certain standards to make things right?
Today, I’ll be giving you the 101 of relationship myths that are so busted!
Myth 1: Successful Relationship = Meeting of Minds
You and your partner are completely different people with different backgrounds, personality and mindsets. Men & women are wired differently, so don’t try to think alike.
His/Her character is complimentary, and shouldn’t be reflective of yours. Appreciate your differences.
Myth 2: Successful Relationship = Fiery Romance
No doubt, you should include lots of romance into your relationship but life isn’t like what you see in the movies, and it certainly isn’t a fairytale. Wild passion will fade over time but it doesn’t mean you’re not in love anymore. The solution isn’t to start a new relationship but rather move on for a richer experience.
Myth 3: Successful Relationship = Great Problem Solving
You can’t avoid disagreements in a relationship. Not being able to resolve an issue doesn’t mean that you cannot be happy. That is why you would need to agree to disagree at some point in time, otherwise known as a compromise.
Myth 4: Successful Relationship = Common Interests
You and your partner are two entities. Forcing common activities and interests might results in tension, conflict and stress.
Myth 5: Successful Relationship = No Conflicts
Arguing doesn’t mean there’s a problem in the relationship. In fact, it allows for a release of tension and gives you a chance to understand and express emotions.
Myth 6: Successful Relationship = Emotional Expression
Expressing your emotions and your chain of thought to your partner may be good but there are certain things that would require some censorship and filtering before being blurted out. Bite your tongue and think before you speak because some words could be potentially destructive.
Myth 7: Successful Relationship = Great Sex
Sex may help release tension but even couples with satisfying sex lives rate it at only 10% on the importance scale. Physical intimacy such as holding hands, caressing and touching are the essentials in physical intimacy with your partner.
Myth 8: Successful Relationship = Perfect Partner
Every one of us have our shortcomings. Instead of focussing on your partner’s, learn to live with it just like they live with yours. As long as they are non-abusive and non-destructive, you can learn to accommodate it.
Myth 9: There Are Rights/Wrongs To Successful Relationships
There are no defined rights and wrongs. Do what you feel is right rather than follow a set of rigid rules. Just like how we are all different, we also express love differently.
Myth 10: You Can Fix Your Partner To Make a Great Relationship
Don’t start believing that you can change your partner and that will make things better. Both of you are equally accountable. Make changes to yourself and take responsibility for yourself.
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